Comments on: The Perfect Mom http://amamasblog.com/2009/03/30/the-perfect-mom/ Daily life with my two boys and other topics Tue, 07 Feb 2012 09:49:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Shawna http://amamasblog.com/2009/03/30/the-perfect-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-7159 Shawna Thu, 14 Apr 2011 16:58:31 +0000 http://amamasblog.com/?p=1427#comment-7159 I live in San Diego where there are perfect moms galore! I guess I would say I am the mom in the Old Navy jeans that thinks it is possible to be in the 7 for Mankind...maybe a way both kinds of Moms can work together to keep identity and a sense of self-worth. The "perfect mom" is struggling too. Struggling to be more loving and caring and patient. Instead of judging..which is exactly what we are all doing..why not introduce yourself. My guess is she doesn't feel so perfect and would welcome a friend and a word of encouragement. Women need to help each other, not judge. The more perfect she seems..the more she needs your help. I live in San Diego where there are perfect moms galore! I guess I would say I am the mom in the Old Navy jeans that thinks it is possible to be in the 7 for Mankind…maybe a way both kinds of Moms can work together to keep identity and a sense of self-worth. The “perfect mom” is struggling too. Struggling to be more loving and caring and patient. Instead of judging..which is exactly what we are all doing..why not introduce yourself. My guess is she doesn’t feel so perfect and would welcome a friend and a word of encouragement. Women need to help each other, not judge. The more perfect she seems..the more she needs your help.

]]> By: Zoe http://amamasblog.com/2009/03/30/the-perfect-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-7012 Zoe Thu, 06 Jan 2011 15:50:16 +0000 http://amamasblog.com/?p=1427#comment-7012 I have been noticing that so many mothers seem to equate being dressed nicely with being "perfect" or "snobby".... I am one of those moms that likes to look my best all of the time. full makeup, hair done, nice clothes, etc and I like my children to look their best as well. I have a two year old and a 3 month old and I am fully prepared to get dirty in my nice clothes. I feel sad that so many moms look at me and judge me just because I have my sh** together and make it a priority to not be a frump. I am not perfect at all, and have no wish to be but I also don't want to walk around looking like I have rolled out of bed either. I have been noticing that so many mothers seem to equate being dressed nicely with being “perfect” or “snobby”…. I am one of those moms that likes to look my best all of the time. full makeup, hair done, nice clothes, etc and I like my children to look their best as well. I have a two year old and a 3 month old and I am fully prepared to get dirty in my nice clothes. I feel sad that so many moms look at me and judge me just because I have my sh** together and make it a priority to not be a frump. I am not perfect at all, and have no wish to be but I also don’t want to walk around looking like I have rolled out of bed either.

]]> By: Jen (wombwisdom) http://amamasblog.com/2009/03/30/the-perfect-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-3486 Jen (wombwisdom) Sun, 05 Apr 2009 15:28:41 +0000 http://amamasblog.com/?p=1427#comment-3486 thanks for this post. there is so much isolation in the perfect mom world. besides the "perfect mom" type you talk about there are so many other ideals we wrestle. I tried to be the perfect attachment parenting, breastfeeding, earth mama I could be and I failed miserably. our children are such an opportunity to become more real and authentic....you touch on that. Thanks again. thanks for this post. there is so much isolation in the perfect mom world. besides the “perfect mom” type you talk about there are so many other ideals we wrestle. I tried to be the perfect attachment parenting, breastfeeding, earth mama I could be and I failed miserably. our children are such an opportunity to become more real and authentic….you touch on that. Thanks again.

]]> By: A Mama's Blog http://amamasblog.com/2009/03/30/the-perfect-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-3465 A Mama's Blog Thu, 02 Apr 2009 00:07:16 +0000 http://amamasblog.com/?p=1427#comment-3465 Great comments, and Annie- interesting insight. Great comments, and Annie- interesting insight.

]]> By: Annie @ PhD in Parenting http://amamasblog.com/2009/03/30/the-perfect-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-3459 Annie @ PhD in Parenting Wed, 01 Apr 2009 16:10:52 +0000 http://amamasblog.com/?p=1427#comment-3459 My own general observation would be that the moms that are perfect models (not perfect moms) are also the ones that tend to see their kids as an inconvenience. They won't say it in that many words, but they will tell you over and over again in different words that their needs come first and that if you give into a child's needs, you are spoiling them. No one is a perfect mom, but I think those of us that are striving to be the best mom that we can recognize that it means being a shoulder to cry on, a shirt to wipe a nose on, and a rough and tumble play partner. Maybe not all of the time, but most of the time. I do take time for myself, but when I am with my kids, I dress and act in a way that makes them feel loved and valued. My own general observation would be that the moms that are perfect models (not perfect moms) are also the ones that tend to see their kids as an inconvenience. They won’t say it in that many words, but they will tell you over and over again in different words that their needs come first and that if you give into a child’s needs, you are spoiling them.

No one is a perfect mom, but I think those of us that are striving to be the best mom that we can recognize that it means being a shoulder to cry on, a shirt to wipe a nose on, and a rough and tumble play partner. Maybe not all of the time, but most of the time. I do take time for myself, but when I am with my kids, I dress and act in a way that makes them feel loved and valued.

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