Our summer so far has been very busy. Compared to last year, though I’m not complaining, but when I envision summer, it seems like life should be moving slower, and it shouldn’t be so rush-rush- every day.
Someone once told me as your kids get older, life gets busier and that seems to be the case. I’ve been working, juggling daycare, and trying to plan some fun activities for the boys. I have also had to start looking around for a new place to live once the house we are living in sells. There has been a re-organization at work, and it just doesn’t seem like there are enough hours in the day to get everything done that I have and want to get accomplished. It is really overwhelming at times, realizing it is just me now. I don’t have any safety nets- if I don’t succeed in balancing work, finances, time with the kids- Ryan and Cole will suffer. The practical, over-planning part of me feels like I should work as many hours as I can, and then some.
Recently a good friend, who is a single mom of four, told me what she regretted. She said once she was divorced, she panicked about finances, and she made that her goal. She figured if she was okay financially, she wouldn’t be so stressed and it would mean security for her and her kids. She says though she really missed a lot of time with her kids, and they all suffered. She says she will never get that time back with her children, and the financial security came at way too high of a price. She told me no matter how crazy things seem to get, keep my kids as a priority, and everything else will work out.
So keeping that advice in mind, I am happy the boys and I have been able to do some fun things so far this summer. We’ve been swimming a lot with my sister and her daughter- the boys’ cousin. Last week when I was working and our childcare provider was on vacation, my sister took all the kids to the zoo, and they had a blast. Yesterday I was able to take the boys to see a local production of The Music Man. We have a camping trip with my dad, (Papa Dan), planned for July, and some vacation time planned.
In less than two months, school will start and Ryan will be in school full-time. Cole will be in preschool, and I will be working more hours. It is the end of an era for us. My kids and I will all be starting new chapters in life, and making adjustments. I am very grateful it seems like it will be good timing for everyone.
As I think about this last block of time we have- it really is a gift. I have been so fortunate to be able to share the majority of these early years with my children. With all the difficulties in the last year and a half, the highlight has been being able to have time with Ryan and Cole.
There are a million things I should and could be doing this summer. It is hard for me to not have every detail planned out. This is a very hard “leap of faith” I’m taking, but I believe it is the right step now for the boys and I.
But for the next two months, I’m not going to worry or stress. I’m going to get done what I need to, and enjoy the time with my children. I’m believing as my friend advised, put the kids first, and everything else will fall into place.
My friend, Steve, has a great blog- Fleur de Life. He ends every post by tying in what he wrote about as the Fleur de Life-the important things that really matter. I love the quote below, and to “borrow” from Steve- taking a leap of faith…-it is the Fleur de Life!
“When you come to the edge of all the light you know, and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught how to fly.” –Barbara J. Winter